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Leadership: Manage Your Emotions by Jasbindar Singh

I will be the first to admit, I am a very emotional person. I work hard; I feel hard, and I play hard. However, being an overly emotional person can damage one’s business and personal relationships.  You have to put things in perspective in “real” time. Over the years, I had to learn to take each moment for what the moment presented. Emotions can carry out in the wrong direction when we start to build upon our own reality of a situation. As a leader, we have to check our emotions at the door and keep them checked in order to sustain healthy personal and business relationships. It’s imperative to take the time to digest what is happening accordingly to respond in an ethical and moral fashion. Basically, keep your emotions intact at all times.

Leadership: Manage Your Emotions

“Self-knowledge is something everyone can grasp. When you understand your emotions, you will have the capacity to understand other people’s emotions too.”
Swami Suddhananda

The gift of emotions

The spectre of emotions we experience is a true gift. Imagine a world without the contrast and diversity of experiences and emotions. spectre of emotions we experience is a true gift. Imagine a world without the contrast and diversity of experiences and emotions.

In the work place, this can range from the incredible sense of success and team work of a well-executed project to those other times when we have missed out on something, feel mis-understood or attacked.

Feelings and emotions are also viral.  

We have to be conscious that we are not unduly affecting others with our negative emotions which could just be “passing clouds.”are not unduly affecting others with our negative emotions which could just be “passing clouds.”

As  managers and leaders we are setting the tone, expectations, climate and culture of our teams and organization.

And nothing seeps or gets picked up faster by others than the non-verbal vibes or careless throw-away comments.

The EQ skills of self-awareness and self-management are vital here to avoid the reactive response when confronted with the unexpected, which one invariably regrets.

Some self-awareness and self-management pointers:

  • Don’t minimize your emotions as they are always giving you information. They can be communicating what even your rational mind has not yet caught up to.
  • The key is to identify and acknowledge fully whatever emotions you are experiencing and to then use it intelligently e.g  starting with “ I feel let down, angry, put out, hurt or whatever else.
  • Try and identify what might have contributed or caused these underlying feelings.
  • You can then explore the range of options and actions available to you.  AND THERE ARE ALWAYS OPTIONS even though we may not see it at the time.  For example, “ I could set up a meeting with Jo and talk this through her,” or  “ I need to get more information and get my trusted colleague Bill’s take on this.”
  • Blame, denial and making excuses typically leave us stuck with our negative feelings. There is little scope for shifting state and finding other more effective and empowered responses.

Coaching Insight:

Sometimes when we are feeling very strongly about something – it can be an indicator that one of our values or goals may be being threatened or thwarted.  are feeling very strongly about something – it can be an indicator that one of our values or goals may be being threatened or thwarted.

Some questions to ask yourself:

  • What is it that you feel you can or cannot do?
  • Who is a ‘trusted other’ you could talk to?
  • Are there other ways of looking at the situation and or ways around it?
  • What responsible action can YOU take which will feel restorative and or empowering?
  • Are you trying to ‘fix’ some thing ‘that you are ‘not in your control?’ Perhaps  Letting go is a better strategy?

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Respectfully,

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